25 August 2019.
Actually, that headline probably should be “lessons learned and still being learnt” as I can never stop adapting and assimilating to change. I will list some important ones I have discovered though:
- You can get what you want or near enough to it, you just have to recognise that it might not be in the same form as you imagined.
I wanted the financial freedom of a full-time job or at least the ability to be resilient and manage with what I had: I now have this, but it is not in the industry where I was originally looking. Sometimes we do not see what is right in front of us as we are still focused on the original plan, therefore flexibility is key, as is the willingness to forgo endeavours which are not panning out as hoped.
2. Gratitude is everything.
Being grateful helps to keep life in perspective when we don’t find exactly what we want or exactly what we think we need. In my work life, I have returned to an industry (Quality, Safety and Environment Administration) in which I studied hard for several years before moving into community service. After two and a half years of trying to find community administration work, and studying hard in that sector also, I had to give up and go back to what I already knew…not for lack of trying, it is just because my financial situation dictated I must accept it.
I am grateful for the new and the old opportunities, grateful for the people I met in community work, grateful for being able to still learn new things in my new job, and grateful for my friends and family and relatively good health.
3. Keeping a light heart and re-finding my sense of humour is so very, very important.
Life can be hard, and as Nanea Hoffman (Sweatpants and Coffee 2015) states: “None of us are getting out of here alive, so please stop treating yourself like an afterthought!”
There is so much good and so many great things and awesome people in life, keep them close or at least keep the feelings within reach in times of trouble and stress. Learn the art of not worrying but being delighted and having a sense of child-like wonder.
4. Being present and living right here and right now can save your sanity!
The past should be for lessons and the future should be for pleasant dreams… not for regrets and nightmares. These are hard lessons and sometimes too easy to slip back to dwelling on what could have been done or worrying about what may never happen (or stressing about insignificant “stuff” that won’t matter in a few days/weeks/months/years).
5. Never think you have learnt enough.
Learning should never end. Being open to change, new truths and possibilities is exciting and prevents a stagnant mindset. Watch the ocean and the earth, everything is in constant motion, with flows and ebbs, even the rocks which are shaped by wind and water are in perpetual change.
5. Life is amazing, we should love it and live it as fully as possible.
Thanks for following my journey. I hope I have shared something which can help others.
Gabe 2019 (GPC)